I try hard to build, earn and enjoy healthy, appropriate, trusting relationships with students. I want them to be comfortable coming to me — and I think most are. About anything. Yes. I want to believe what they tell me — and try to. I’m not so naive to think that I’ve never been lied to, but I’m willing to take that chance by trusting first — and until I can’t. Through the years that I’ve taught, I think I’ve done pretty well most of the time. Today I failed.
I’ve written about this before =====> “I WANT to trust you. I WANT to believe you. I WANT to say ‘Yes’. I WANT you to be truthful with me and I’M willing to take the first reasonable risk. The danger, for me then, is that some people are so accustomed to saying what is convenient at the moment (situational ethics?) that they do that with ME (automatically or intentionally – doesn’t matter) …..and I get burned, disappointed, even hurt. Why do I take it so personally? I wish I didn’t, but I do.”